March 31, 2010Hi Nikki,i'm sorry you are having a dfflicuit time We never forget that our children have down syndrome either. It is hard on all of us. we all love our children but at the same time there are times when the unknown is debilitating and scary. I will say though that our children belong in this World and have a right to life just as much as any other person. Historically, different ethnicities, sexual orientations, and even sexes were considered to be lesser than other groups. The world became more enlightened and accommodating and I believe the same thing will be the case for our children. You have had a relationship with your child for almost 6 months and I'm sure you are entering a phase where the gap in other children's abilities and your son is starting to widen. this can be dfflicuit.its good that you have been seeking help and engaging with others finding the right support is very much the key to becoming more comfortable. my wife and I had to try a few times to engage with the right set of people to help us through things. also realize, that things have progressed so significantly from the bad old days early intervention, therapy, inclusion, etc have been proven to yield amazing results many of our children will grow up and go to college, learn to drive, have a family, and live independently. the responsibility will be on you to help your child down this path but just as any typical child, you will shape your child's future immensely if you put in the work. make sure you get support from the state this is the time to get this going. My son started at around 6 months.this is the time when we as parents need to take a deep breath and buck up and realize that we are the center of our child's life and they depend on us for everything. you are not alone at all in this please come back here and visit and talk anytime you need. the only thing that matters is you and your family everything else is just context. Justin